What Are the Bases in a Relationship? Defining the Baseball-Sex Metaphor
Release time：2023-11-12 09:40:46 oRead0
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First Base
- First base is kissing, making out, and French kissing. Anything you might do on a first or second date is usually included in first base. You might give your date a quick kiss on the lips, or you might have a full makeout session with tongue and all.
- Second base is any touching or petting above the waist. Second base is where things get a little handsy: you or your date might feel each other up above the waist, including touching the chest, breasts, or nipples. Definitions vary slightly on whether this is over the shirt or under the shirt, but the general idea is the same.
- Third base is touching or orally stimulating below the waist. It’s the closest you can get to having sex without having full-on intercourse. Usually, this involves stimulating each other below the waist, either with your fingers or with your mouths.
- Home base, also called fourth base, is having sex. Home base is when you take things all the way home: it’s the furthest you can go with a partner. You’ve most likely gone through every other base up until this one.
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People change the definitions based on what they’ve heard in the past. Since the “bases” are made up, you might hear a few different versions of each base and what they mean. The bases also might vary depending on how old you are, too. It’s important to remember that you don’t need to be focused on which “base” you can get to with your date—instead, pay attention to how much fun you’re having and the experience as a whole.
- Some people have different definitions of each base, and that’s okay.
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Always give and get consent before any sexual act. It doesn’t matter which base you’re going for: before you do anything, check in with your date to see how they’re feeling and if they want to continue. Take your own feelings into account, and feel free to ask your date to stop or slow down if you’re feeling uncomfortable.
- It can feel a little awkward to pause in the middle of things and ask how your date is doing. Try asking something like, “Does that feel good?” or, “Do you want to keep going?” for a casual way to check in.
- Or, if you’re the one who wants to take a breather, try something like, “Could we pause for a second?” or, “Just give me one second to catch my breath.”