How to Tell if Another Woman is Bisexual
Release time：2023-11-15 19:58:14 oRead0
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Watching her Behavior
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Notice whether she shows open attraction towards women. If the woman seems to generally appreciate women, including their sex appeal, there is a chance she is bisexual. Does she always notice other people's looks and comment on them in a sexualized way? Just keep in mind that there are different types of attraction, including:
- Romantic attraction: Wanting to be romantic with someone
- Sexual attraction: Wanting to be sexual with someone
- Platonic attraction: Wanting to be friends with someone
- Sensual attraction: Wanting to cuddle and hug someone
- Aesthetic attraction: Liking how someone physically looks
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Recognize that it’s possible she’s attracted to women but doesn’t realize she’s bisexual. Women can be attracted to other women without formally identifying as queer—this is not an uncommon phenomenon.
- Go with your intuition. Sometimes you just get a vibe. You generally know when someone seems attracted to you or someone else, right? Sometimes intuition can mean more than words. Some studies have found that up to 60 percent of women are attracted to other women, so it's not that rare. Whether they will act on it might be another story.
- Society encourages women to develop emotional closeness to one another. For some, this can spill over into attraction. Realize that sexuality can be very fluid. Studies have found that women define their sexuality more ambiguously as they age.
- The tricky part is that many platonic female relationships mirror romantic relationships because they are built on sharing intimate details and talking about personal issues for hours on end.
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Pay close attention to how she acts and what she says. Take a closer look at the folks who like the types of people and spaces that she talks about a lot—that could potentially highlight aspects of her sexuality. Additionally, pay particular attention to the pronouns she uses when describing her previous partners.
- Listen when she talks about her hobbies and see what mentions. For example, does she attend an all-women’s book club, or does she show up at other women’s soccer games?
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Figure out her relationship status. Although some women in relationships with men discover their bisexuality, a woman without a male significant other in her life could also be bisexual. if she seems to have no man in her life, that’s also a sign she could be bisexual. Lacking a male partner isn’t definitive proof that she identifies as queer, though—she might just not be dating.
- Asking about her celebrity crushes can be a helpful starting point in figuring out her preferences, as well as asking about her past romantic relationships.
- Take a closer look at what she posts on social media. Does she talk about queer issues a lot? Does she repost content from queer celebrities? Does she attend Pride?
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Ask her how she identifies if the situation allows for it. If you feel comfortable, feel free to ask something like “How do you identify?” If you identify as queer yourself, sharing and disclosing that information yourself (if you feel comfortable doing so) can be really helpful.
- If you identify as queer but don’t feel comfortable disclosing that directly, try mentioning it indirectly. You could say something like “My ex-girlfriend and I broke up because…”
- Always try to read the conversation and situation before asking someone about their sexuality. In some cases, it might be inappropriate or unsafe.
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Figure out if she’s had past experiences with women if it’s unsafe to ask her directly. Women being intimate with other women has become more common in popular culture over recent years. If the woman is open about a past experience with a woman, there is a chance she might be open to it again.
- Follow the social cues of the conversation and make sure it’s appropriate to dive into this type of topic.
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Tease out her feelings. Start generically. Ask which celebrity she has a crush on, and see if she names a woman. Or ask directly which female celebrity she finds the most attractive, and why, and see how she responds.
- If it makes sense in the context of the situation, bring up issues in the news like same-sex marriage to see how she reacts. Such issues can be contentious, but broaching them can give you clues about her sexuality.
- 4 Know the difference between bisexuality and being sexually open. People can be open and interested in certain sexual experiences without identifying in a particular way.
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Assess her mood and body language signals. Recognize that men are often more overt about expressing their interest in someone romantically. Women often hint.
- What’s her mood like when she sees you? If she becomes giddy, extra happy to see you, and full of smiles, that’s a good sign. Does she ever show jealousy? If she shows jealousy, such as when you spend time with another friend, that could be a sign she’s interested.
- Is she trying to get you alone or does she only hang out with you when other friends are along? If she’s always trying to get you alone, it might mean she wants to hook up with you.
- Does she have open body language (body facing toward the woman, palms up, feet pointing toward the woman) or closed (arms crossed over her chest, palms down, body facing away, etc.)
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Watch what she does with her eyes. If you catch her making eye contact with you (you’re a woman interested in her) or if you catch her making eye contact with another woman (if you’re a guy or a female friend of hers), she may be bisexual.
- Persistent eye contact can be a way of creating intimate connection and to flirt. Also, you should pay attention to the amount of personal space she leaves between herself and other women. Is she trying to create a zone of intimacy?
- Looking someone in the eyes and then glancing away is a sign of flirtation in many cases. People don’t usually lock eyes with people they only consider friends.
- 3 Listen for tone and inflection in your conversations. People who’ve been socially female are taught to lift up their tone at the end of a sentence, especially when talking to friends. However, people also like to train their voice to do this when they’re flirting with other women.