How to Accept Being Gay (Tweens)
Release timeļ¼2023-11-17 12:33:28 oRead0
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Finding Out You're Gay
- 1 Start questioning your sexuality. This step can be crucial in finding out if you're gay. To question, you can try thinking about whether you would feel more comfortable dating the same gender or opposite gender. Looking back at your school crushes could also help, but current school crushes would help you more. A crush you had in 1st grade wouldn't really be the same as when you're in 6th grade, but may help.
- 2 Try getting experience. While this sounds awkward, it could help. Maybe, if you find another friend of yours experimenting with their sexuality, you could go on a "date" with them and see how it goes. Another way to experiment is to imagine scenarios where you are dating someone of a gender you're attracted to.
- 3 Find information on YouTube. Nowadays, there are a lot of LGBTQ YouTube channels. Check out channels like Team2Moms. Their channel is very informative about the LGBTQ+ community and is also kid-friendly. There are also a lot of comedic gay channels, such as MacDoesIt. These channels could help you understand the gay community better.
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Understand that you may relate to other types of sexuality.
- Keep in mind that if you aren't sure that you're gay, you may relate to another sexuality. Here is a list of well-known sexualities.
- Straight: You are sexually attracted to the opposite gender
- Gay: You are sexually attracted to the same gender
- Bisexual: You are sexually attracted to two genders
- Asexual: You are not sexually attracted to anyone
- Bi-curious: Interested in experimenting with different genders, but not sure if they would date two genders
- Pansexual: You are attracted to all genders equally, including men, women, and nonbinary people.
- Keep in mind that if you aren't sure that you're gay, you may relate to another sexuality. Here is a list of well-known sexualities.
- 1 Understand that being gay is okay .While it may seem like there is a lot of hate surrounding the LGBTQ+ community, it's not that bad. Try not to avoid with homophobic people. If you have homophobic parents, then you should check out Deal With Homophobic Parents. If you're in a homophobic community, you shouldn't come out yet, but you should accept yourself. Support yourself, and if others can help, let them.
- 2 Go to a therapist if you need to. Since you may be confused or scared, you can go to a school therapist to help deal with your feeling of being gay. The therapist can help you on coming out, understanding your feelings, and can connect you with the LGBTQ+ community in general.
- 3 Come out to friends. As you may not feel comfortable coming out to your parents quite yet, you can come out to your friends. They can be easier to tell. If they don't accept you then you can seek out more accepting peers. By telling your friends your feelings, they will understand you further and help you.
- 4 Come out to your parents. Many kids are afraid of telling their parents that they are gay. The process of planning to come out to your parents can vary from telling them on the spot to waiting several weeks. There are a lot of ways to come out to your parents, but talking to them is probably the easiest and most effective way. A lot of parents accept their kids, so most likely (and hopefully) your parents will accept you.
- 1 Join LGBTQ communities online. Joining LGBTQ+ support groups online could help you feel accepted and talk to others about being LGBTQ if you have questions.
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Befriend other LGBTQ kids at your school and hobbies.
- You can become friends with gay kids at your school for potential love interests and/or support. It would be nice to know gay kids at your school, so that you know that you are not alone at your school.
- 3 Consider dating. If you feel romantic feelings towards a same-gender person, who has come out, maybe you can date. Do not get into a serious relationship, but you can have fun "dates" together, having someone to be with who understands you. It would be fun to have a relationship with a friend.
- 4 Show pride. You can do this by making things such as a gay flag blanket, a gay flag cake, or attending your local pride parade on pride month. If you feel uncomfortable attending the parade, being younger than most people there, that is entirely your choice. You can also show pride by doing things like taking a selfie with your partner, for example.
- 5 Join a youth group. If you are young and in the LGBT community, joining a group can help. If you're out to one of your parents you can join one. Most middle schools have a group, but an LGBT community center has them too.